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I Overeat Because I’m Unhappy

by nina on May 30, 2012

overeatingThe thing that I have learned the most from doing the Q&A Tuesdays, coaching and creating new products is just how powerful
and cunning the eating disorder can be.

It will tell you all sorts of stories about why you are overeating, binge eating, starving yourself and isolating. It will justify all
of this behavior and prevent you from seeing the truth about why you overeat.

If you are ready to hear the real reason you binge + overeat, then this week’s NinaV TV is for you. Press Play and you will get to the root cause of the issue – and it may be hard to swallow (no pun intended).

Are you struggling with this same issue? If you are, I would love to hear how you are dealing with it and if you accept that diets fail and worsen the eating disorder.

Have you tried to stop dieting? What worked and what didn’t?

Trust me, I know how hard it is to let go of old behavior and TRUST that this new recovery path will work.. especially when so many things have failed you.

But I stand strong on this issue that diets will always impede your progress in recovery – no matter what. But I say this with full compassion about the difficulty in letting go

Now, over to you! I want to here your personal views and experience on this topic in the comments below. Can’t wait to hear how you guys are dealing with this and what your issues and challenges are…

Love and compassion,

Nina 🙂

P.S If you are ready to rise up to the challenge against the eating disorder and taste true freedom, sign up for the new Recover From Eating Disorders Program. Because remember, the longer it goes on for, the worse it gets – until you can no longer distinguish between the eating disorder and the real you… take action today, there IS a solution.

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{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

Cindy June 5, 2012 at 1:22 am

Hi Nina,

Yes, I think I do struggle with letting go of dieting. I’ve made a lot of progress though, compared to where I was even one year ago. While I usually don’t count calories or portions anymore (at least not like I used to), I still have trouble giving myself permission to eat if I feel it “too soon” or whatever. Then, I end up just munching on random things which is completely unsatisfying. Or, I’ll postpone eating and ignore my hunger. I’m working on it, but I do struggle.

One thing that is hard is that I work from 8:15-5:15 every day, and I’m a preschool/daycare teacher. This means that I must take all my food for the day with me (I usually can’t run out to get something). So, I have to try to anticipate what I’m going to want to eat and bring it with me. Also, I pretty much have to eat during the children’s snack and meal times, because I am occupied during the rest of the day. Any suggestions as to how to manage this type of situation would be very helpful.

Thank you so much for this video. I really appreciate your honesty and encouragement for us all to let go of the prison that is dieting.

Warmly,
Cindy

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Nat May 31, 2012 at 11:43 pm

Question: Do you struggle with letting go of dieting? I do, plus I’m studying Nutrition and Dietary at UCV, and I love it because it has lot of ways to go, is not only about gaining or losing weight diets, it also has a lot to do with different kind of patients in hospital and everything else, but that’s another story. The fact is…ofc having a story myself of an ED, Anorexia, it’s sort of harsh sometimes not to realize when I’m doing something wrong myself with my eating and feeling bad about it, like I’m far from what I’ve been feeling like “Recovery” all along these years, or feeling good because I’m eating less than I should…and then again I’m struggling with these feelings of losing weight, recovery, health…all at once …So for me, knowing a lil bit more about diets and health, yes I guess I do…

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nina June 2, 2012 at 10:27 am

Hi Nat,

That can be a tough environment to recovery in, but it can also be positive. Take what YOU need and leave the rest.
Perhaps you could even use you study to your advantage and one day help people who are struggling with eating disorders, because you will have a lot of knowledge and experience in the area of health, b=nutrition as well as the emotional and psychological aspects of it.

You are always where you are supposed to be and if you take care of yourself and your own recovery, it doesn’t matter if you work in a place that is surrounded by food. The change starts with you, not the external surroundings.

Love Nina x

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Maria May 31, 2012 at 12:37 am

Dear Nina,

I let go of the (Zone) diet 2 1/2 years ago, when I realised it had made me so obsessed about ‘eating healthy’, the amount of times I ate a day, weighing my food even though sometimes I felt like eating more/less and that I couldn’t even have a piece of cake without feeling guilty about treating my body badly. I was ALWAYS thinking about food, controlling every meal, not enjoying food. Trusting what someone else said I wanted.
This happened before I came across your page, so something in my self conscious was already telling me the diet was unhealthy for my mind.
I haven’t dieted since then, but the obsession with ‘being healthy’ remained. I’m progressing with this every day since I came across your wonderful videos and blog about a month ago. When I’m hungry and extra inspired I’ll stand in front of the fridge/cupboard and ask myself what I feel like eating. It’s not always what I’m thinking I feel like eating. I try and put my mind in my body and become sensitive to what it wants.
I haven’t weighed myself in over 3 weeks and I’m becoming far more sensitive with my thoughts about food, my body, other people’s bodies. Thoughts that are automatic if I don’t catch them in their tracks. Most importantly realising they are just that, thoughts. And I can ultimately choose what I think.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

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nina June 2, 2012 at 10:24 am

Hi Maria,

You are a rock star!! WOW – in that short space of time you have made some serious changes. Beginning to listen to your intuition, throwing out the scales and realizing that “thoughts are NOT instructions” are some pretty big things.

It is true – I could never believe that my OWN body knew better than all the nutritionists/dietitians/trainer… but it does. Remember that the diet and weight loss industry is worth about 70 BILLION – and it rides off the fact that it has a 98% FAILURE rate – so people keep coming back, spending more and more, thinking they did not do it right – when the truth is that they were set up to fail to begin with!

Keep doing what you are doing – it is so inspiring!!

Nina x

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Shellie May 30, 2012 at 12:41 pm

Dear Nina,

I have written you before about overeating. I am finding what you say to be very accurate. All the reasons people think they overeat have nothing to do with what they think it does. I find as the years have gone on and I have continued to struggle with control and dieting and exercise rigidity that my “reasons” for overeating have increased!! Even something as small as saying I will only eat dessert after dinner can trigger diet behaviors and send me into a tailspin that I won’t recover from for days or weeks. By that I mean, it leads to bingeing, overexercising, depression, and of course more weight gain!

Thank you so much for continuing to pop up in my inbox! Some weeks I have wanted to throw my computer across the room thinking,”she is crazy, lying, etc. this will never work!” but then I get curious, listen and ALWAYS feel better. I sometimes think “well, it worked for her, but it won’t for me” and then when I really, really only eat when hungry what I want and just enough without stuffing myself I find I slowly start to come out of the despair. It is just so hard to continue that day after day when you have binged/starved for so long. It just doesn’t feel normal. But I know like breaking a habit it will start to become second nature if I just keep pushing! You are a gem….thank you so much for talking abou this….no one wants to hear it, they want control and order, even if it is not real, they never talk about freedom!

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nina June 2, 2012 at 10:18 am

Hi Shellie,

You are absolutely spot on with so many things.
We want order and control and we are given a false sense of that with the eating disorder – but in the end it is a lose-lose game.
You always end up binge eating, full of despair, thinking how did this happen – I must try harder.
But the freedom comes in letting go. In not fighting the eating disorder anymore and just letting go.

As for the time – yes habits can take time to be broken. But they CAN be broken – it is a fact not just for eating disorders but for many things in life. And the time that it takes depends on your willingness to let go. When you are truly done, the recovery can be fast and miraculous.
Once you taste freedom – there is no going back to that old hell.

Keep at it Shellie…

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

– Harriet Beecher Stowe

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Ally May 30, 2012 at 5:29 am

Hi Nina,
Thanks so much for the video, I can so relate to this and have been struggling with binge eating for the last three years. I enjoy eating really healthy but find myself bingeing about every 2 weeks which usually lasts for up to 4 days.
This makes me feel really down and not want to socialize or do anything. I think what my problem is, is that I am subconsciously pseudo-dieting.. for example last Friday night I really felt like burritos for dinner but instead I made a vegetable dish to be healthy, only to later gorge myself on ice cream which then turned into a massive 3 day binge 🙁 I know you say let yourself eat whatever you want but do you have any tips for trying to catch yourself out when these types of situations occur? Like last Friday night should I have stopped myself and cooked burritos instead of vegetables?
Sounds so silly but I am so frustrated!
Thanks so much for your videos, I watch them every week

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nina June 3, 2012 at 12:53 pm

Hi Ally!

The first step to any change is AWARENESS and admitting what we are doing. An admission of truth makes us accountable to change.
So the very fact that you have come out and said that you are pseudo dieting and restricting is a big admission of truth and you are now creating the space for change to happen because you are no longer in denial.
That is the process and you are doing it perfectly.
Now that it is out there, you have shed light on it you will be able to catch yourself when those thoughts occur and if you trust the process, then just allow yourself to let go of the eating disorder head, eat what you want and miracles will happen!

Sending you love,

Nina x

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