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Dealing with Other People When Recovering From an Eating Disorder

by nina on March 28, 2012

One of the most awful things that you can go through in recovery is dealing with comments that other people make about how you look, what you are eating or not eating etc…

It can be so frustrating when you are in your early days of recovery and so so sensitive to deal with comments like then and not fight back in anger and/or revert to your old eating disorder crutch.

What’s worse is that you eating disorder is now working overtime to keep you right where you are and it will convince you that “they” are right and you should eat more/less, weigh more/less.

Our wonderful viewer Nat has asked this question and it something that I can absolutely relate to – even to this day. However, today it has no affect on me whatsoever – I know that being forced to eat will throw my intuition out of whack, I know when people are concerned, and also jealous I know when people are speaking from their own disease.

I have 3 ways and solutions that you can apply if you find yourself in this situation where other people are really starting to affect your recovery… Check it out and please leave a comment on the blog or below the video!

Do you get negative or triggering comments?

How do you deal with it?

Lets get this important conversation started so we can all help each other..

I love the 2nd of the Four Agreements:

(2) Don’t Take Anything Personally.

There is an awful lot of negative energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other people. If you take it personally and take on the poison of another’s words, it becomes a very negative agreement you have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we take personally that cause us to go into upset.

Now I am knee deep in creating the new Recover From Eating Disorders Program, which has an insane amount of content, action worksheets, videos, mp3’s, Ebooks on specific topics and a whole lot more. I have been consumed by this because it is my mission to help as many of you to get to the other side of recovery and life a life of joy and freedom.

Don’t forget to leave your comments below and see how others deal with similar situations. You never know who you can help!

Love and Service


Nina Vucetic

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Jen April 9, 2012 at 2:59 pm

Hi Nina. Thankyou so much for your reply.

I understand what you are saying here & you are right, I put my body through hell & back & now finally at a point where the obsession with my weight & food has lifted more than I ever believed to be possible. I am so glad I have found someone like you that can understand & really relate to how I feel.

I went back to one of your videos about self love which has helped me enormously and I have been practising this a lot. When I feel tired & have little energy, instead of being down on myself & bingeing or burning myself out even more with obsessive exercise, which I would always do in the past, I am taking a long hot bubble bath, getting a manicure or meditating & many other things like this for myself & it really helps me feel so much better.

Thankyou for your support.


Jen April 3, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Hi Nina.
I’m glad you posted this video. It shows us how recovery is more important than what other people say or think.
I have a question about early recovery. I have been eating normally for over 6 months now & truly feel recovered, it is amazing! Over the past month or so i have been getting very tired, feeling like sleeping more, having less energy. I think this is a result of 2 reasons. Firstly i am eating less and less often, as i just get full quicker & secondly the foods I really like and eat regularly are not considered nutritious. For example, more sugar. I certainly can’t and won’t go back to eating foods just because they are “healthy” but this tiredness is really feeling like a problem at the moment.
Did this happen to you? Please, any advice would be amazing.
Jen Xx


nina April 9, 2012 at 1:43 pm

Hi Jen,

Yes it is always important to put your recovery first – before anything or anybody else. Without recovery, we really have nothing anyway except for a miserable existence, depression and plaguing obsession.
great question about feeling tired during the early stages of recovery. This is something that I will definitely do a Q&A Tuesday video about.
But in the meantime, just remember this: Your body is going through ENORMOUS changes as well as you r mind and spirit. the changes are both physical, biological and mental.
It is absolutely normal to experience tiredness, wanting to sleep more and having less energy in the early stages of recovery.
Remember that you are no longer using food to provide you with an artificial high or a numbing out, and so it takes our bodies some time to recalibrate and get used to the new way of living. be patient and loving to yourself. Your body and spirit has been through a lot and if it is rest that it needs, allow it.

Love Nina


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